Sunday, April 26, 2009

Well, our Governor backed himself into a corner last week by suggesting that Texas might just secede from the Union. The media ran with it, as did his opponents. Probably an over-reaction, since Texans have joked for years about our right to secede.

The joke is probably on us. Most of the rest of the country would be inclined to say “don’t let the door hit you on the way out”.

While there is an amusing side to this, generally speaking, secession is not a terribly productive approach to any problem. It’s tantamount to disengagement; it closes the door on communication.

At the institutional level, an example is “get the US out of the UN”. If the rest of the world won’t play by our rules, we’ll simply disengage. The half-serious Texas secession bantering is another example. As is the classic example of secession from about 150 years ago. That one didn’t work out too well, either.

I’m more interested in bringing it down to an individual level. Sometimes we secede from relationships; we disengage. In general, men are more guilty than women. We say “we’re going into our cave” and everyone chuckles. But it’s not that funny. It’s a conscious decision to secede, to disengage. I confess I’m a hypocrite – I like my cave. In fact, I’m in my cave right now writing this and watching basketball.

I would like to encourage all of us, especially the men, to not secede. Ultimately, we may find that as we secede from relationships, we’re really seceding from life.

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